When do you feel most like yourself?


When do you feel most like yourself?

😹 When you’re laughing with friends over an inside joke?

📚 When your nose is buried in a book, making the hours pass by like minutes?

👐🏽 When you’re creating something beautiful/messy/tactile with your hands?

🗺️ When you’re at home? Or on the road? Or waiting at airports, the ultimate in-between space?

What I find fascinating is that I could ask 1,000 people this same question, when do you feel most like yourself?, and I would hear 1,000 different answers.

When you feel most like yourself, you are unmasking — taking off the masks that many of us wear as we move through the world.

When you don’t feel like yourself, you are most likely masking.


👉🏽 I break down this topic in this week’s podcast episode, To Mask or Unmask: Your Nervous System, Your Needs.

I talk about:

  • What masking looks like (ex: people-pleasing, downplaying your needs, & suppressing your body’s natural movements/stims)
  • Why masking is a skill & survival strategy, especially for highly sensitive & neurodivergent folks (just like code-switching is a skill & cultural assimilation is a survival strategy)
  • Why unmasking is essential for nervous system health, but why it might not be realistic to unmask all the time (depending on your identities, lived experiences, & personal circumstances)
  • What it means to navigate your life with autonomy & choice, balancing safety & authenticity
  • Why unmasking is not a checklist, but rather an experiment in a new way of living
  • 4 types of unmasking: sensory, social, emotional, & values-based (with specific examples to apply to your own life)

(Learn more about Nervous System Care & Healing Podcast here.)

Also, thank you for all the kind feedback on my podcast! I’m grateful that folks are listening along (if podcasts are your thing; and no pressure if not) and I always welcome your reflections.

With care,

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🌻 For folks who are overwhelmed & burnt out, but too busy for weekly therapy, I offer Nervous System Healing Intensives​ — three 90-minute sessions, using brain-body modalities (Brainspotting, IFS, EMDR) that go deeper than talk therapy & help you feel better, sooner.

Intensives are a type of short-term, accelerated therapy — for folks who prefer a hyper-focused approach to healing; who need longer than 50-min sessions to warm up & process deeply.

👉🏽 If you want to get an Intensive on the books, click here to book an intro call.

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