I have a funny relationship with time, and I’ve noticed a lot of other neurodivergent people do too. Here’s what I mean.
And so on and so forth. See how non-linear our sense of time can be? It’s fascinating to reflect on neurodivergent brains and our relationship with time. There are challenges, of course – like when our brains go to a place where clocks don’t exist, and we end up accidentally showing up late, or needing way more time for a task than we actually planned for. And there are also the potential gifts of a neurodivergent brain moving through time – like how we can get lost in a deep conversation for hours, or how we can viscerally re-experience the joy of a memory from 2004, with the same vividness as if it were happening right now. For some of us, time is not a linear experience, it is a circle. Or a spiral. Or a wave. Or whatever other metaphor makes sense to you. (And since neurodivergent folks are not a monolith, some of these experiences may resonate with you and others may not.) I share this all with curiosity, and with no real point other than to observe how fascinating our brains can be. Here’s to staying curious, acknowledging the challenges, and celebrating the gifts of our wiring. Talk soon, P.S. If you're feeling burnt out & overwhelmed, and need help taking care of your nervous system, I'd love to support you. I offer Nervous System Healing Intensives — three 90-minute sessions, using brain-body modalities (Brainspotting, IFS, EMDR) that go deeper than talk therapy & help you feel better, sooner.
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When people ask me what Brainspotting therapy is and how it works, I have a couple different responses. The first is the clinical answer: “Brainspotting is a trauma-informed modality that uses fixed eye positions to facilitate deep healing and processing in the brain, by bringing unconscious thoughts, feelings, and memories into conscious awareness.” And if you’re thinking, hmm, okay, but what does that actually mean?, then you might find my second response more helpful. Instead of just...
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